Oprah’s warning to Rihanna has been all over the internet, and I really hope Rihanna is paying attention to what Oprah warns WILL happen if Rihanna isn’t very careful about her relationship with “alleged-abuser” Chris Brown. Oprah knows what she’s talking about, and abused women all over the world need to take heed to Oprah’s warning that Love Doesn’t Hurt! Rihanna, are you listening to Oprah?!

We’ve all heard the news reports of the “alleged attack” by Chris Brown on his girlfriend Rihanna, and we’ve seen the pictures online “allegedly” showing a beaten, bruised and battered Rihanna. It’s enough to make Oprah and all women outraged that Chris Brown raised his hand to Rihanna at all, but also that Brown not only bit Rihanna, but “allegedly” punched her in the face multiple times.

To Rihanna, teenage girls and women who are being abused by angry, controlling, abusive men listen up! Abusive men do NOT change! Do NOT become a statistic like so many other Rihanna’s in the world. The truth is, Rihanna is a celebrity who has been battered and beaten, and I’m thrilled that Oprah is doing a show next week dedicated to abused women and teen girls.

Abusive relationships affect teenage girls and women all over the world, and teenage abusive relationships are on the increase. Regardless of Rihanna’s celebrity status, Rihanna is no different than any other women who has been abused either physically, mentally or emotionally. Rihanna could be your sister, mother, cousin, niece or even your own daughter, and it’s about time abused teenage girls and women finally realize that abusive men will promise you “it will never happen again”, but don’t you believe it! Love Doesn’t Hurt! Oprah was right when she said, “If a man hits you once, he WILL hit you again“!

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I sure hope Rihanna will watch Oprah’s show, and that Rihanna will do some serious soul-searching about the abuse she suffered. I also hope Rihanna will take some time to herself, read everything she can get her hands on about abusive men and how statistics prove that if a man hits you once, he WILL hit you again! Are YOU in an abusive relationship? Do you know the signs of an abusive relationship and the steps you must take to protect yourself from your abuser?

Categories: Abuse, Dating, Death, Divorce, Education, Family, Friendship, Health, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Teenagers, Women – Tags: abusive men, abusive relationships, chris brown, oprah, rihanna

oprah-on-o-magazine-150x150-1-2 Oprah fell off the diet wagon and gained forty pounds in the past year or so, but that’s no big secret since Oprah went public discussing her struggle with weight by posing next to a skinnier picture of herself on the cover of January’s edition of O magazine.

Oprah’s Best Life Series with Bob Greene debuted recently on Oprah’s show, with Oprah discussing how her life became unbalanced, she stopped making herself a priority, was diagnosed with a thyroid condition, which caused Oprah to feel totally defeated.

With the help of Bob Greene’s book “The Best Life Diet Cookbook”, and the Best Life Diet Series found at oprah.com/bestlife, Oprah is again working towards regaining control over her eating habits and making herself a priority once again.

Anyone who has ever dealt with the struggles and difficulties of being on a diet, losing weight and trying to maintain a healthy weight like Oprah has, would likely not appreciate anyone taking heartless jabs at Oprah’s weight gain by poking fun and criticizing Oprah’s public admission of weighing 200 lbs again or Oprah’s diet series.

Oprah isn’t the first person to lose weight, gain weight, lose weight and gain it all back again, and Oprah won’t be the last. I, for one, wish Oprah the best of luck with the Best Life Diet (oprah.com/bestlife) and getting herself and her life back into proper balance.

Oprah’s Weight Gain Due to Depression?

“What happened was life took over,” Winfrey says on her popular daytime show. “I started getting overwhelmed, I started to gain weight in February of 2007, and I was still okay because, like everybody else, I’m, like, “Okay, the first five pounds, you’re okay.”

Oprah says doctors told her to “embrace her hunger,” due to her thyroid problem, and that no amount of exercise would help. Oprah started eating a bag of organic, multi-grain blue chips each day, which lead to her packing on the pounds, and possibly much worse.

“I think I felt she was losing her zest for life, and that was one of the saddest moments,” says Bob Greene, Oprah’s personal fitness guru. “I really thought, “well, maybe she’s depressed,’ and I brought that up to her.

“What? Me? Depressed?” says Oprah. “I can’t be depressed. I know what depression is. I’m not depressed.

“Something’s off,” Greene says he told her. “Your movements are slower. Your responses are slower. There’s a dullness about you… there’s something going on that’s – that you’re not — you’re not there.” Winfrey plans to dedicate 2009 to getting well again and becoming healthier in mind and body.

2009 is also my year to achieve my goal of losing weight and keeping it off for good.

Categories: Education, Health, Reviews, Women – Tags: Bob Greene, Dieting, oprah, The Best Life Diet

the-dangers-of-webcams-thumbnail The use of webcams in modern society, whether used at home or work, has had positive and negative effects on those who have webcams attached to or built into their computers. Children and families may use webcams to communicate with relatives and friends who live or work far away, but law enforcement is more concerned about the dangers of webcams and the harmful effects for children and teenagers who spend time on the internet.

Webcams can be purchased for as little as $20.00, and most tweens and teens who have a computer also want a webcam in order to project live images of themselves on teen chat sites, social networking sites like MySpace, Xanga and Stickam, as well as uploaded videos of themselves on YouTube. According to law enforcement, webcams are the single most dangerous peripheral device to be attached to a computer that is used by children or teens. Why are webcams so dangerous?

If you are like most parents, you would never allow a male to be in your teenage daughter’s bedroom without supervision, but it’s happening on a daily basis while young children and teens are on the internet and using webcams, right under the noses of unsuspecting parents. What’s even worse is that many teens have computers connected to the internet in their bedrooms, and many parents still don’t understand how harmful and dangerous this is. Who is watching your child on webcam?

Elementary schools are teaching kids how to use computers and navigate the internet, and young kids are often more knowledgeable about technology and computers than their parents, and these kids are often able to find ways to circumvent and override parental controls and passwords that have been set to protect children while online.

Webcams pose a serious risk to children because it allows an open window into the activities and lives (and bedrooms) of children and teens, and sexual predators are using this technology to their own perverted advantage to target and sexually abuse innocent children. There is also a very dangerous webcam-specific virus or worm called W32/Rbot-GR, where a child molester can recognize that a child or teen has a webcam attached to the computer and is able to remotely activate the young person’s webcam without their knowledge or approval.

The dangers of webcams cannot be overemphasized. Law enforcement officials, television talk shows like Oprah and Dr. Phil, news stations and child safety advocates have worked very hard to bring greater awareness to the dangers and harmful effects of webcams, including information about the profile of a pedophile or sexual predator searching for children to molest and abuse.

Not only is it important for parents to have open dialogue with their kids and talk to their teens and children about these and other topics, but it’s extremely important for parents to know about and monitor what kids are doing online in order to supervise and protect their children from becoming victimized.

Unfortunately, even parents who know How to Use Parental Controls to protect and safeguard their child’s online activities and block access to inappropriate websites, may discover their kids are way ahead of the parents and are able to get around parental controls quite easily. Smart kids that are older and are more computer savvy, or have friends (online or offline) who are all too willing to educate them on how to get around administrator passwords and settings, laugh about the realization that they know more about computers than their parents.

justin-berry-thumbnail If you think your own children are not at risk of becoming a victim of sexual abuse with or without a webcam, meet Justin Berry. Justin Berry was a young 13 year-old boy who, through his webcam, became part of the sordid online world of pornography, having been targeted by online predators and sexually abused over a period of years.

After being rescued by NY Times Reporter Kurt Eichenwald, Justin has become a child safety advocate, speaking out about the prevalence of sexual abuse of children online through his website InternetSafety.tv and warns parents not to allow their children and teens to have webcams.

Protecting children and teens on the internet must be a high priority for parents, and some tweens and teens can become secretive and rebellious to the point where parents have to take what may seem like drastic measures in order to keep their kids safe, including closely monitoring what their kids are doing online with computer monitoring programs. Don’t make the mistake of thinking your child or teen will tell you if they’ve been approached by or propositioned online because most children don’t tell about such things out of fear of losing their internet and computer privileges.

While I believe much can be accomplished by talking with and educating children about the dangers of webcams and internet safety, I also understand that parents have to do whatever is deemed necessary to keep kids safe online.

Related Posts:

Why Don’t Kids Tell? Talking to Your Children About Sexual Abuse
Child Sexual Abuse: Facts VS. Myths
Child Safety and Child Sexual Abuse Series
Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They’re Really Saying

Categories: Abuse, Children, Education, Family, Friendship, Health, Parenting, Relationships, Teenagers – Tags: computer monitoring programs, dr phil, harmful effects of webcams, how to use parental controls, justin berry, kurt eichenwald, oprah, prevelance of sexual abuse, The Dangers of Webcams, the profile of a predator, Who is watching your child

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